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Half A Seder Is Better Than None

I just got off the speakerphone with the Pony Family. They called right after they'd finished dinner. I have my own copy of the Haggadah that our family uses, so I brought a bottle of wine and a glass into the bedroom where the phone is, and I got to participate in the final phase of the seder. The grace after the meal, a couple of Psalms, opening the door for Elijah, the third and fourth glasses of wine (don't worry, I'd already made a good start on the wine before they called!), and of course the final blessing. Next year in Jerusalem! (Or in Massachusetts.)

And then, of course, the real reason that we set up this phone date in the first place: the singing! I don't have a copy of the family song sheets, but between the Hebrew and transliterated texts in the Haggadah itself and the transcription of the Aramaic song that I made for the class I TAed, I had words for everything. Singing with a group on speakerphone is a little weird, because the phone can't quite process both ends at once, but we worked it out. I got to sing with my family this year, despite not being able to be with them as anything more than a little electronic box. But at least I got to be on the middle of the table!

It's not the real thing, but it's a surprising comfort. We all feel like we haven't abandoned each other now.


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Apr. 12th, 2009 02:59 am (UTC)
I'm sorry you have to spend Passover away from your family, Pony. I always enjoy your stories about family gatherings. It's wonderful that you have such a close, loving family. I'm glad that at least you were able to be with them by telephone.
Apr. 12th, 2009 12:58 pm (UTC)
The Pony Family was also sorry that I had to be in Chicago, but the speakerphone idea was brilliant -- at one point there was even a blessing modified to go "May the Merciful One bless this house and all assembled here . . . and on the phone."

At least the Pony Parents will be coming to visit in May.
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Apr. 12th, 2009 12:58 pm (UTC)
My family is totally awesome, yes they are.
Apr. 12th, 2009 10:08 am (UTC)
That's great, FP. I'm so glad you got to be part of it. Being together obviously means a lot for your family and it's lovely that you all found a way to do that as best as you could.
Apr. 12th, 2009 01:00 pm (UTC)
The Pony Family has always been willing to find creative ways to work things out, and I love that technology exists that helps us to do so. I even got to lead a Psalm reading over the phone!
Apr. 13th, 2009 02:44 am (UTC)
But at least I got to be on the middle of the table!

*imagines a small, singing Pony as centerpiece*

Okay, that's it for me. Clearly I've overdone it on Easter eggs.

Apr. 13th, 2009 01:48 pm (UTC)
No, no. You need more Easter eggs.

*likes the idea of being a six-inch-tall, singing centerpiece*
Apr. 13th, 2009 11:21 pm (UTC)
It is oddly appealing, isn't it?

And I had more eggs today so not to worry.
Apr. 14th, 2009 12:10 am (UTC)
Well, I'm glad you got to do that much and that you enjoyed it (along with the wine ;-) ) It really stinks that you couldn't be there in person, but at least this is something. I hope you get to see your family live soon!
Apr. 14th, 2009 12:20 am (UTC)
It does stink that I couldn't be there in person, but the speakerphone was nice. Mom and Dad Pony reported that everyone at the seder enjoyed the speakerphone (though they would have preferred to have me in person!).

I hope you get to see your family live soon!

I will! Mom and Dad Pony are coming to visit in May.
Apr. 15th, 2009 01:53 am (UTC)
So glad you got to be with family, even if it was virtually. :)

Long time no see, but wished to offer HUGS. Hope all is going very well.

With how much love and care is evident in your posts about your family, there's no way you could ever abandon each other, even if you are far apart, you find a way to be together. And that's beautiful.


Apr. 15th, 2009 03:27 am (UTC)
Thanks for the hugs. I really need them right about now.
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